Tag: life reflections

New World, New Opportunities

It’s been 2 months since we repatriated back to Colorado. It’s been quite the whirlwind – more than I expected. I mean, it’s coming back home – how hard could it be? Let me count the ways:

  • Buying cars (walking was not an option)
  • Enrolling kids in school – more like shopping for all of the school supplies
  • Refurbishing our place to make it “ours” again
  • Figuring out how to watch sports after “cutting the cord”
  • Oh, and finding a job once everybody was settled

 

But, the hardest part of settling back in Colorado was also the most unlikely reason: the peaceful serenity of suburban life. After living in Mumbai with a population of 20 million where people lived on top of each other, it took a bit of an adjustment to live in a Denver suburb city of 65,000 where at night, you can hear the silence. More than anything else, you realize there are very few people that you can relate and share your experience. You miss, more than anything else, the people.

 

As if India followed me to Colorado, an opportunity presented itself where I was invited to attend the Indian Institute of Technology Bombay’s annual reunion in New York City. Though I am well-travelled, I’ve never been to the Big Apple. The IITians (especially Vinay Karle) welcomed me with open arms, and I felt like part of the family I left behind. I may be the only non-Indian alumni, but I was treated as family – just like I would be in India.

 

Things are different, not perfect, but different. I do not take for granted blue skies, clean air, or even red lights. As anyone who has lived or visited India, you will appreciate American traffic congestion… Our Mumbai adventures have officially ended but a new one begins which now includes a much larger extended family. You don’t have to move to India to change. Rather, you just have to change to open your world to new possibilities.

 

IIT Bombay Director Khakhar and myself

 

Reflections of India

It’s now August 2017. I took a few months break as my family prepared and transitioned back to Colorado after 2 ½ years living in Mumbai. It’s been a whirlwind as we said goodbye (or in Hindi “phir milenge”) to our friends. It was especially tough to say goodbye to our drivers and maid (Sarfaraz, Rafik, and Kunda) who became part of our family.  As I look back, it has been an amazing journey. We were able to visit 8 countries in the region and traveled all across India with the exception of Varanasi – we just ran out of time…

I am extremely proud to graduate with my joint Executive MBA from Indian Institute of Technology Bombay and Washington University in St. Louis and had one of my best professional experiences volunteering as the board president at the American School of Bombay.  However, I found the best part of India to be the richness of the people: warm, hospitable, passionate, and sometimes, a bit crazy.  When I first started my blog, I created a Top 10 “Only in India” list. I want to recap that list and then share my 2 life lessons that India taught me.

Number 10 – Traffic is very congested in India and the use of the car horn is applied liberally.  Actually, I believe honking is a form of echo location.  Whether you are 5 ft or 50 ft away, honking is mandatory.

Number 9 – Does “yes” mean “no”?  No one ever says “no”.  How can I tell if “yes” means “yes”?

Number 8 – Seeing the locals’ reaction when saying “Mujhe ullu mat banao” when the situation calls for it. My Hindi teacher said to use this sparingly. I found it amusing to see the reaction I get when a foreigner says it. It added a new dimension to the term.

Number 7 – Scratching my head when my neighbor complained that the shoe rack outside of my flat caused the hallway to be dirty…I’m pretty sure my shoes are not the root cause…

Number 6 – A small city means less than 1,000,000 people.

Number 5 – A wedding attended by 400 people is considered “very small”.

Number 4 – I thought my family’s “island time” in Hawaii was relaxed…India is even more relaxed – always add at least 2 hours (or 2 days or 2 weeks) to a start/delivery time…

Number 3 – There are bad monkeys here. Lock your possessions (especially food), or they will disappear.

Number 2 – You think you are “ballin” (living a good life) until you realize you didn’t have an elephant at your wedding.

Number 1 – Everybody is a cricket coach! The US cannot compare to the passion of the fans here. In fact, when India plays Pakistan in any match, I find it is the best time to drive across the city – fastest commute ever.

Now that I’ve been back in Colorado for 3 weeks, I’ve had time to reflect a little more.  I feel a sense of calm. I no longer “rush to the next thing” or complain when something minor happens (just listen to people complain in a Starbuck’s line). Work hard, play hard, and appreciate what’s around you – especially the family.

I’ve been able to look at new opportunities with a different perspective and worldly view on life based on two life lessons:

  • “Anything is Possible” – India is the epitome that anything can and will happen. We just do not know it yet. There is an aura that no matter what the situation is or how the odds are against you, there is always a chance/opportunity which no one gives up hope. The work ethic and desire to “push through” and overcome challenges is a testament to Indian resiliency.
  • “If you can live here, you can live anywhere” – While this is a cliché, this is very true. There is no predictability or a homogenous society where you can set expectations. Everything and I mean everything is different from region, state, city, and neighborhood. If you can adapt to change here, you can adapt to any situation.

We miss the friendships, my maid’s poha, and the vibe of the country. But, it is also good to be back home. I have documented my journey on a personal blog. If you are so inclined, please take a look at my other posts  on www.brianaichang.com.  If you have any questions, please let me know.  I look forward to connecting with you.